Lara's Story


Emotions Matter is committed to supporting those who have lost loved ones as a result of BPD.  If you have lost someone, we are sorry for your loss.

Our hope at Emotions Matter is to:  

1) Help those coping with BPD loss to feel less alone.
2) Collect stories about individuals who have lost their lives to BPD.
3) Bring awareness to trends in BPD loss that might help us advocate for better mental health care.
4)  Encourage researchers to study BPD loss to improve mortality associated with BPD.

To join our monthly telephone bereavement group for those who have lost loved ones as a result of BPD, contact Paula Tusiani-Eng, LMSW at, or 516-350-8387.

Lara Dolgoff from New York- Died on January 22, 2012 at the age of 23.  She was an aspiring makeup artist and beautician. 

Lara’s mother described her as having an incredible sense of humor, irresistible sparkling eyes, beautiful singing, sincere generosity, brilliant writing skills, and contagious laughter.  Yet, no matter how much positive feedback she received, Lara unfortunately, she was unable to become emotionally healthier to manage her BPD symptoms.

Mrs. Dolgoff donated Lara’s brain for research to understand BPD. 

In an article accompanying Lara’s obituary about BPD, she wrote:

“To all of you who struggle with BPD - you are not alone, don’t stop reaching out to others no matter how difficult your situation can be … your life is valuable and you matter. 

To family and friends who have someone with BPD nearby - don’t give up, love them for who they are, and don’t be afraid to think outside of the box to overcome stereotypes and stigmas that are abundantly connected to this disorder. 

To the professionals - never stop seeking answers and developing treatment centers specifically for BPD, they need your help more than ever.  To the politicians - increase the funding and support of all efforts to improve the quality of life of those stricken with this horrible disorder.  There is hope for a better future if everyone works together.”

Thank you Mrs. Dolgoff for sharing Lara's story with us, and for advocating for BPD.  We honor Lara's life by sharing her story to help the millions of BPD suffers in need of support and treatment."